An Abuse Survivor Stands Up

By Gary Gilson
Spring 1994

It's happening all over Minnesota, all over America. It hurts. The question is: Can it be prevented?

In April, the Waconia Patriot published a story about a local man being charged with sexual abuse of a minor. Not only did the story describe his alleged offenses in extraordinarily graphic detail, but it also identified the alleged victim as his 17-year-old daughter. She told authorities he had abused her since she was eight. She has been living in a foster home for the past three years.

The day after publication, a Carver County social worker, Charles Meyer, called the News Council to complain on the girl's behalf: "The fact that the paper identified this girl means she faces having to transfer out of her high school and move out of her foster home, where she has just experienced the three most stable years of her life."

How could the paper have made this identification?

Meyer found out when he called the associate publisher, Bob Ackerwold. Ackerwold apologized, Meyer said, and offered an explanation that he later repeated to the News Council staff: "I was out of the office when this story moved. All stories that include such controversial material as sex abuse or suicide have to get my approval. This should never have gotten into the paper. I'd like my staff to get some sensitivity training."

The day after the story appeared, Patriot Editor Keith Anderson apologized to the girl, to her foster parents and to the school superintendent, Rick Dressen. Ackerwold expressed concern about public reaction to the story and to the Patriot, and he lamented that a full week would pass before the next issue would come out and provide an outlet for a public apology. So he was busy the day after publication sending memos around town explaining what had happened and assuring people it would not happen again.

Dressen said both Ackerwold and Anderson, in phone conversations with him, had held themselves accountable. But he said the newspaper ought to go further.

"They can demonstrate good faith by recognizing that there's a way to do more than say you're sorry. They may have to provide some dollars to pay for counseling for the girl, and they can serve as a model to our community by going through sensitivity training. That would be really positive."

Dressen described to the News Council staff just what kind of price a youngster has to pay when such a story appears: "Say a kid has been experiencing sexual abuse and thinks it was her problem. She can't talk about it. She's into heavy denial. She has low self-esteem. She's shy, she doesn't reach out to kids to share her feelings, she lies to social workers. She's afraid of losing whatever roots she has, knowing that she may have to leave her foster home because living in this community is no longer possible.

"What you have to understand is that, at the age of kids like this, peers are what it's all about. An abused kid doesn't come to school prepared to learn that her peers have read about her secret in the paper. It's humiliating. Her self-esteem is shattered. She's made to feel blame. Some kids mock her; few have the ability to reach out and tell her how sorry they feel for her."

Meyer wasn't sure how or whether the pieces of this girl's life could be reassembled: "She's tough. She says she may want to try to stay in the same school. I don't know yet how it will go."

A similar story appeared recently in the Aikin Independent Age. It did not identify the alleged victim, but the circumstances in the report left no doubt about her identity. Her mother called the paper and the News Council and all agreed that a public hearing might hurt the girl more. Editor Ann Schwartz said she did not know the girl's relationship to the alleged offender, and if she had, she probably would have written it differently. She said she was sorry and added this: "I feel all alone out here. We could use some guidelines on touchy stories like this."

Schwartz said she has decided to make references to victims as vague as possible, "But in a small town, no matter how vague we try to be, if we name the alleged perpetrator we're almost identifying the victim."

Pioneer Press managing editor Mindi Keirnan has decided that in some cases stories will not name the alleged perpetrator, Keirnan says some of her staff disagree, but she's determined not to add to the harm of the crime.

The superb new SDX/SPJ handbook Doing Ethics in Journalism urges three guiding principles:

Seek truth and report it as fully as possible.

Act independently.

Minimize harm.

In sex-abuse stories, the first and third principles often conflict with each other. no one said this work was easy.